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Admin of lemmy.blahaj.zone

I can also be found on the microblog fediverse at @ada@blahaj.zone or on matrix at @ada:chat.blahaj.zone

  • Is it possible to have a usable domain without a VPS or a static IP address?

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  • Our setup uses a domain pointed at a dynamic (but stable) IP with a script to update it periodically

  • Uber is letting women avoid male drivers and riders in the US

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  • don't tell me what I want

    You did that part when you said that trying to change the status quo is inequality...

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  • Yeah, I'm sure I was imagining it. You don't seem like someone to throw around insults and misogyny

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  • Bigotry and spam doesn't become ok based on where you say it

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  • You have a 7 hour old account. You'll have to excuse me if I have no idea who you are

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  • You instance banned me without giving any justification.

    The reason will be in the modlog

    But generally, it's spam, transphobia and other bigotry that gets you banned.

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  • that's literally why I bought up the topic of equality...

    What you brought up is an appeal to maintain the current iniquitous status quo, by suggesting that the real problem with men being the aggressors in the vast majority of sexual assaults isn't the sexual assaults, but that some men might be falsely accused. But hey, if women want to protect themselves from that, we should legalise excluding them and reducing their service options in other areas, because you know, that's what equality looks like...

    The thing is, you don't give a shit about the real world manifestation of inequality. What you want is a platonic ideal of equality, which doesn't exist in the real world, and using it as the measure, just ensures that real world inequality stays around and never gets challenged, because people like you can point to the rules and say "We already have equality" .

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  • Different people can be equal in some areas and unequal in others

    So what you're saying is that women being sexually harassed is just how it is in a society with equality?

    Because if that's not what you're saying, I'm curious why you think a movement to reduce the disparity is a problem? Well, I'm not curious, I know the answer...

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  • Things aren't equal now. You don't want that to change.

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  • Why can't we just support equality for everyone? Why is that so hard?

    At least part of it is because of people like you who get upset whenever someone challenges the grossly inequitous status quo.

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  • They do, but only by passively monitoring RSS feeds for new content that exceeds your current quality. They don't do active upgrade searches unless you manually trigger them.

    The distinction is important if you imported some or all of your media library, rather than building it from scratch with the arr stack stuff. It also matters if you source some your content via providers that don't have RSS feeds.

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  • Believe it or not, you don't speak for all everyone who isn't' cis.

    The only person in this conversation trying to speak for all trans people is the person you're defending

    It's telling that the only fault you see is in the voice of a trans person defending themselves, and not in the voice of the person saying that trans people don't actually exist, they're just people confused about stereotypes

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  • Go and re-read the post of the guy you're defending.

    His opening sentence was literally "Being mtf or ftm trans is conforming to gender stereotypes with extra steps"

    He is quite openly saying that without gender stereotypes, trans people wouldn't exist, and that trans people are really just folk who are too caught up in gender stereotypes. He continues to express that opinion even after trans people directly and openly talk about their identity and how it is distinct from stereotypes.

    I've been having these discussions for a decade or more now. I know red flags, I know dog whistles, and I know why those things are problematic. And to be frank, you don't.

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  • What I care about is people who aren't trans, trying to erase trans people, by blaming them for the system that oppresses them, whilst letting themselves off the hook for propping up the same system.

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  • No, what he's saying that being trans is "conforming to gender stereotypes" and that if we got rid of stereotypes, trans people would be able to express themselves how they want, without having to be trans.

    Which is to say, he's suggesting that trans women are all trying to be feminine, and if there was a way for men to be feminine without societal push back, trans women wouldn't need to exist. He doesn't explicitly state the last bit, but that's what he really means, and it's why he considers his position controversial

    When I made a post going in to detail about the lack of relevance feminine gender stereotypes have to my day to day life, despite the fact that I'm transgender, he largely ignored it, despite that being the basis of his "opinion"

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  • It was absolutely a judgement, because it's an opinion you shared in a "what's your controversial opinion" thread. if you didn't carry judgement within your opinion, you wouldn't be sharing it here.

    I will also highlight that you ignored pretty much the bulk of my post, where I expressly highlight my rejection of stereotypes, and my lack of understanding them, and their implicit lack of relationship with my identity, to focus on a single sentence that provided literally no detail to exclaim the veracity of your claim.

    You came in with an opinion that puts the onus for fixing the harm caused by gender stereotypes on trans people, despite trans people being less in a position to challenge that system than you are, whilst being more aggressively punished for challenging it than you are. You ignored the voices of trans people telling you about their experience and relationship, whilst never owning your own responsibility and involvement in the system.

    So no, you were not "observing". You were judging and holding trans people to a higher standard than you hold yourself.

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  • I'm trans. I'm a woman. I don't have my ears pierced, I rarely wear makeup, I don't do my nails, I haven't shaved my legs in coming up on 2 years. I don't understand femininity, and I perform it to the bare minimum standard, because if I don't, I face extra exclusion, hostility and questioning.

    What I'm trying to get at, is that I don't really care about "expressing myself". Abolishing gender stereotypes would absolutely make my life easier, and I guarantee I'm doing more to undo the power they hold over people than you ever will, whilst you sit there and judge trans people for upholding the system that punishes them far more than it will ever punish you.

  • Deprecated Linux Commands You Should Not Use Anymore

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  • How about an article like

    "Clickbait Headlines You Should Not Use Anymore"

  • Installing EndeavourOS, should I use btrfs or ext4?

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  • No no no. That won't work with btrfs snapshots if you've had a kernel upgrade. Choose grub from those two