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  • Why Are Cars Getting Rid Of Android Auto?

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  • ooh duly noted thank you

  • Why Are Cars Getting Rid Of Android Auto?

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  • the only integration i want between my phone and my car is a 3.5mm audio jack. i'm driving a 2016 right now and am dreading replacing it because i doubt i'll be able to find anything without this "infotainment" crap. i thought i had read that those were being phased out because consumers unilaterally hated them, so reading the opposite here is a huge bummer

  • Which pejorative aliases do you use for companies or products?

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  • you are a true fartist

  • Which pejorative aliases do you use for companies or products?

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  • there is truly no higher art than replacing "art" or "heart" with "fart"

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  • god, the only thing worse than going to the ER with a glued butthole is getting there and seeing the "i feel a paper coming on" look in the doctor's eyes

  • What are the best/your favorite versions of classic Christmas tunes and why? Interested in both classical pieces, and vocal songs.

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  • it's hard to compete with A Chtistmas Gift for You from Phil Spector, which has to me the definitive versions of a lot of the classics plus one of the all-time greatest tunes period in "Christmas (Baby Please Come Home)." if you like the kind of cheese that sprays out of a can, the Brian Setzer Orchestra does fun rockabilly takes on the classics, and Wizzard's originals "I Wish It Could Be Christmas Everyday" and the other one who's name i can't remember are great. for the nerds in the room, Urizen's "Autonomy" carries on the TSO spirit with a heavy heaping of chiptune, the soundtrack fo the Christmas NiGHTS into Dreams... demo has awesome renditions of the classics in 90s VGM fashion, and look up the demo song on the Yamaha SHS-10 keytar when you get a chance

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  • why would you post something so ominous

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  • Ann Leckie and Becky Chambers are definitely up there

  • TIL - the recorder can actually make decent music. Ralf Bienioschek performs BOHEMIAN RHAPSODY a Recorder Cover of the song by QUEEN. And it's a good cover.

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  • a close cousin of the recorder is the tin whistle, and listening to a minute of mary bergin's whistling will quickly shatter any illusion that fipple flutes are toys

  • TIL Bobby Dunbar was kidnapped, and returned to his parents... decades later DNA testing proved he was a different child

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  • i'm suprised no one seems to have point-blank asked him who his parents were in court, or if they did why that wasn't the beginning and end of the case

  • Please help me under stand my spouse's gift and their hurt

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  • i agree with you that insincere apologies are wrong. OP structured their post looking to understand their wife's POV, rather than to get a bunch of strangers to agree with them like on an AITA post. if that were the case i definitely wouldn't suggest apologizing. OP acknowledges that they hurt their wife, even if they didn't mean to, much like their wife hurt them, even if they didn't mean to. i just think sitting down and actually expressing that, saying "hey, i wouldn't have said that or said it the way i said it if i knew it would upset you, i'm sorry" establishes empathy and good faith, and often times doing that is enough to get the other person to do the same thing. if OP didn't seem sorry i wouldn't have suggested apologizing

    i think my wording was the problem here in hindsight. "i'd apologize for the way you reacted whether or not you actually blew your lid" does sound like i'm saying to apologize for being angry even if you weren't angry. what i was trying to say was that apologizing for hurting them, even if their reaction seemed way out of proportion to what OP said or how OP said it, would be a good first step to reconciliation

  • Please help me under stand my spouse's gift and their hurt

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  • i think you replied to the wrong comment?

  • Please help me under stand my spouse's gift and their hurt

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  • I'm very suprised by a lot of these comments. it's very common advice that a gift giver should gift something that the reciever wants, not the giver. Not gifting someone they already know isn't common advice but it's already common sense. Common sense isn't always as common as the name suggests, though, and we all have blind spots. The other commenters may be right in that your wife's reaction might be a sign that your tone was harsher than you intended or thought, but that doesn't change the fact that you were hurt as well. if this was an aquiantance i might agree that you should have just accepted the gift graciously even if you were just gonna return it, but your partner should someone you can be honest with and someone who will appreciate that honesty

    like most relationship problems, i think the best way to move forward is to talk it out. i'd apologize for the way you reacted whether or not you actually blew your lid as an olive branch. explain again calmly where you're coming from with this and emphasize gratitude that your wife was observant enough to get you a gift they thought you would use while also explaining- again, calmy- why your wife came to the wrong conclusion. try and zero in on the heart of the problem- was it specifically that you wanted to return it that was the issue? then you might be able to compromise that you keep it until your current one is broken beyond repair, for example. never ever ever say "i'm sorry you feel that way," that never goes well, but do show genuine concern and remorse for the way that they feel. after your wife blows off some steam, if you both approach this calmly and in good faith i'm sure you'll be able to find a compromise. that might look like your t-shirt rule, "no gifting things i already own," or deciding to always gift "experiences" instead like another commenter said, or maybe just no gifts moving forward if it really is always going to be a point of contention

    good luck to you and i hope everything works out well for the both of you

  • Just imagining Trip with Rod Stewart's hair

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  • perhaps Trip playing "Do Ya Think I'm Sexy" whenever T'Pol came to do Vulcan accupressure was in hindsight a bad idea

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  • hopefully washed out to sea

  • The last free thinking entrepreneur

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  • look at the comic again. the orphan being launched has their arms raised and is going "aaaaaaahhhh" like on a rollercoaster. clearly having fun!/profits have nothing to do with it, this is the most ethical way to handle the situation

  • What movie scenes has wrecked real banging songs for you?

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  • i heard the giorgio moroder version of nights in white satin, one of my all time favorite songs, for the first time the other day but all of the youtube comments were about aeeing it in a raunchy scene from the sopranos so i guess i can never watch the sopranos

  • K&T Host, a hosting provider for many Fediverse software including Lemmy has announced they're shutting down

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  • aw hell! K&T are great, that's a real shame

  • What if you tried to hit a baseball pitched at 90% the speed of light?

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  • to think all the money and effort we've wasted trying to create fusion in a lab when what we really needed was a really, really, really good pitcher