More of just a softcore/strip kinda guy. I find porn corny and offputting so I'm usually just browsing /s/, fapello, or the endless tumblr blogs for every fetish imaginable. (suggestions welcome).
gallery sites, are my thing, I guess, redtube is another good one with a lot of solo stuff. Motherless, though I hate going there because some of that content is a little on the teen-obsessed side, and kinda creepy, but I do like the way the site is designed.
<_< are we having this discussion right now?

If a corporate entity made it and hosts it, and it isn't foss, don't chat on it.
There is another layer here. If you or the person you're talking to are using an entirely unmodified android or apple phone, you don't have any privacy even if you're on TOR connected to an encrypted xmpp chat. Your entire existence is backdoored. The entire OS speaks back to its maker, especially that keyboard.