I guess I can agree with you. My view from all the pain and Ive experienced from others' mean acrions or words or their unusual ostracization of me was "They can be mean to me all they want. The world sucks enough already. Why would I want to make it suck even more?". But maybe Im just speaking from my narrow perspective . All because I was able to turn around the hate I received around into a little bit of love and self-love maybe I was more priveleged than others to a point where I had the capability to turn my hate around because I receivced more guidance on how to do that from my therapist and teachers than others did.
Though I still have a hard time accepting that most fully grown adults who choose to do or spew hurtful things have NO agency in what they choose to do. Certainly there has to come an age where you just 'wake up' and realize that 'Hurt people may hurt people ...Therefore why the hell would I deliberately hurt more people?'. Right?
I guess I can agree with you. My view from all the pain and Ive experienced from others' mean acrions or words or their unusual ostracization of me was "They can be mean to me all they want. The world sucks enough already. Why would I want to make it suck even more?". But maybe Im just speaking from my narrow perspective . All because I was able to turn around the hate I received around into a little bit of love and self-love maybe I was more priveleged than others to a point where I had the capability to turn my hate around because I receivced more guidance on how to do that from my therapist and teachers than others did.
Though I still have a hard time accepting that most fully grown adults who choose to do or spew hurtful things have NO agency in what they choose to do. Certainly there has to come an age where you just 'wake up' and realize that 'Hurt people may hurt people ...Therefore why the hell would I deliberately hurt more people?'. Right?