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Every opinion I have is my own. Every opinion I have is subject to change without notice. If you think my opinion is incorrect, change it with facts (citations needed). Be kind. Be cool. Be yourself.

  • To me, depression has always been like Bilbo in Mirkwood. He's at the top of the trees, looking around, but all he can see is trees. He doesn't realise that they're in a valley, so there's nothing but trees all of the way to the horizon. There is no end in sight. There's no point in going on: he knows that they can't go on much further, so why bother even trying. They might as well give up. But we know, from outside looking in, that he's just got to make it to the top of the next valley. If he checks again once he reaches the top then he will be able to see all the way to the Lonely Mountain and that the trees end soon and give way to the lake... He's almost through the darkest part.

    So back to your question...

    Making an appointment to see a therapist gives you a goal. You've made a commitment to be at a specific place at a specific time. That is often enough to get you up the next valley to see a way forward. The therapy itself can also be quite beneficial, but I've always seen the making and keeping of the appointment as a fundamental motivator for my own will when I'm deeply depressed. It's hilarious to me that I will consider ending it all, despite the effect I know it will have on my family and friends, but that I would postpone suicide to keep me from the embarrassment of missing an appointment. The depressed brain is completely irrational.

    Exercise requires getting up, getting outside, going to the gym, going to the park, being around people... The exercise itself is beneficial with the endorphins and the elevated heart rate and the requirement for replenishment (eating food), but again, for me it has always been just getting out of my room and going somewhere. Just get to the front door... Right, you're here now! Might as well go for a walk. Just gotta hang on long enough to get to the top of the next valley.

    I recommend exercise and therapy because it forces people to choose between the "permanent solution to the temporary problem" and the possibility of hope. 99.9% of the time, people will choose hope.

    I also recommend them because they both work for me. There's no cure: you've just gotta hold on long enough to see the lonely mountain.

  • We didn't break up, but she broke off our engagement. I was a bit of a dick and she told me so. I told her that she should propose to me when she was ready. I sorted my shit out. Together 21 years, married for 16.

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  • And keep eye contact. Preferably without blinking.

  • I'm really angry. My oldest son's school sent me an email this afternoon lecturing me on his attendance and how it affects his grades and how it makes the school look bad, etc...

    We had a few weeks off earlier this year when my grandfather and my mother-in-law died (both suddenly and unexpectedly) within two weeks of each other.

    My younger son's school offered assistance, counselling and anything else that they could think of to offer. They were very supportive. My older son's school has just berated us for grieving and supporting each other, our friends and our family. I'm so fucking angry. They know that bereavement was the reason for his absence. Cunts.

  • Except one short mention about riding the clutch, I haven't seen this yet... Get into the habit of completely removing your foot from the clutch pedal whenever possible. Even just lightly resting your foot against the pedal can wear your clutch out prematurely. Cruising on the highway: remove your foot from the clutch pedal and rest it on the floor. Sitting at the lights: put the car in neutral and release the clutch. Put your foot on the floor until you're ready to go. Also, it's ok to coast to a stop with the clutch pedal depressed, but you have much more control if you downshift to a stop and you will extend the life of your brakes, too.

  • Game on the left monitor. My left monitor is directly in front of my chair, though. Right monitor is portrait for browser, discord and whatever else I need at the time. The whole setup flipped (🔄) when I moved my desk last week, though.

  • /c/smallvictories

    I like the idea. Post the address when you kick it off!

  • Bill Cosby. I was raised on Bill Cosby albums and TV shows. I can't listen to him any more.

  • Roger Taylor and Brian May. John Deacon was the bass player and he retired when Freddie died.

  • Freddie Mercury.

    Diana Spencer.

    Robin Williams.

  • Queen Pink Floyd Dire Straits Sting/Police

  • Minecraft.

    If I'm feeling particularly antisocial I'll play Angband or Umoria.

  • I think B.B. King has the solution:

    I've got a good mind to give up on living and go shopping instead.

  • I always have a screen protector. I prefer glass; I'm not a fan of the plastic ones. I pay to have it installed, that way it has to be installed perfectly or they do it again until they get it right.

    I've broken a couple of screen protectors, but never a screen... Except for the time I accidentally stood on my 7" Nexus tablet, which wouldn't have been saved by a screen protector, anyway.

  • Breasts are not like a bladder filled with liquid. It's more like a dense sponge; so you can squeeze liquid out, but you can't inflate a sponge.

  • One of the first games I ever played (and it was definitely the first game I tried to cheat/hack) was Bard's Tale (the original) which is set in Skara Brae.

  • When I was young I was all about black. Not goth or emo, but I only really had black clothing and would take the un-coloured option every time. Now that I'm in my late 40s, I really love green. The bright green of spring grass on a sunny day, because the tans and browns of Australian summer and autumn and the greys of winter really wash out the palette of the countryside and the olive greens and blues of eucalyptus are dull, muted colours. My clothes are a lot more colourful, now, too.

  • When I was eleven (1988) we moved to a rural property with no power. I left when I was eighteen... So.. Seven years.

  • Dude. Literally the first sentence of the body text...