Hey,
Person here who despises electron apps in part because of the memory footprint and in part because I don't like neither chromium nor node.js - personal preference mainly.
From your description I have the feeling that it's unclear to your user base if electron is set or up to debate. There is only a thin line between "explaining" and "defending".
In terms of communication: "We're using electron as foundation because it allows us to focus on development. We've considered alternatives like Tauri and XYZ and opted in favor of electron."
If there are situations that might make you rethink state those as well ("if someone provides a proof of concept via XYZ that an alternative is faster by y% while enabling us to still use (your core libraries and languages) we might consider a refactor."
If you'd engage with me after an electron rant on your codebase you'd just raise my hope that I might change your mind! Don't give people hope, don't feed the trolls and do your thing!
Just please be honest with yourself: your app doesn't use "50 to 60 MB", it uses 500MBish on idle because of your choice. And that's okay as long as you as developer say that it is.
I'm too disconnected to be knowledgeable enough to recommend or discourage alternatives, just want to note that one has to educate themselves on what is right - your key words will help with that for sure! For example: Just from looking up DoxyPEP: That's an antibiotic based product and would be useless against HIV. But might be good at reducing the risk of syphilis and other nasty bacterial bullshit.
The other thing where I absolutely agree with you is the issue of the stigma: It must not be a taboo to enjoy oneself, explore own sexuality and be self confident into oneself as a full, human being with whatever sexuality floats ones boat.
That's why I'm so happy about OP asking even though it's a shitty situation: I'm sure jt will help some passive reader to realize something about their own sexuality and that's an awesome thing!
In short: Thank you :)
Edit: sorry for the reply spam I got an error message about posting but it seemed to got through anyway.