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RBWells

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  • Strawberry season PSA

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  • Cut generously and use the cut off ends to make kvass (tepache de fresa). Yum yum.

    ETA: or tepache de gnome I suppose.

  • What do you think about gambling?

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  • It's not my thing, I do have a small basket of stocks I call gambling (they break even) and husband spends $2 a week on a lottery ticket.

    Other than those I abstain, it's not really fun to me.

  • Agree or disagree? A lie by omission is still a lie.

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  • If it's on purpose to deceive, I guess.

  • "If I can't win an argument, I must change my mind." Do you agree with this view?

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  • Not exactly. I can be convinced, am wrong often enough. But also often people just cannot hear or see anything from anyone else's perspective, or they cannot be convinced because they are too brainwashed or just don't have the same life experience I do.

    So sometimes I would describe it as your idea may be correct but you don't have the communication skill to explain it to the person you are arguing with.

    Also - I have been told I'm persuasive. So maybe I could win and still be wrong, yes?

    Arguing well is separate from having good ideas.

  • How many days of missed sleep do you think you could hide from people?

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  • I have had a handful of "status migraines" in my life and that is by far the worst pain. I am so sorry, and hope you can figure out a way to end them. Mine always came while I was sleeping - would wake up with them, but once started even a drop of water would make me puke, and no real sleep just sort of hallucinations. 5 days is the longest, I used to be able to go get them broken with injections of some opiate mixed with an anti nausea drug, it didn't make it stop just put me so far away from the pain I could really sleep and I would wake up without the headache. Alas, that is disallowed now. Last (and hopefully the last ever) time that happened it was $1500 in the emergency room and a cold IV of some hopped up advil (doesn't work AND doesn't get you high enough not to care) with an antihistamine. The IV liquid does help so not dehydrated but it did nothing for the pain.

    Sorry long rant but I feel you - those long severe headaches are the worst pain. Worse than childbirth, worse than broken bone.

  • What's the coolest performance you've ever seen?

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  • Fela Kuti, by far. That show, absolutely nothing else existed, probably best performance in the world.

    Second place Henry Rollins, I almost sat out his set because he was so snooty to everyone in the club but holy crap.

    And Marcus King has such charisma - he is a pudgy not particularly handsome dude and was wearing an unflattering outfit but I swear he transformed, not physically exactly but is so compelling on stage - he picks up the guitar you forget about his looks. I find that almost the definition of cool, in a way. Transcendent.

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  • Ooh I am trashy as heck then, and proudly so. My favorite shirt, and the one I get compliments on, is silk leopard print button-up, it's gorgeous.

    I think trashy is behavior not style. Loud and messy and yelling at servers; behavior that indicates a lack of awareness of the feelings of anyone else around you.

  • What does marriage mean to you?

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  • What it means to me is different from what it did for me.

    I didn't marry my ex, we had kids so were a family regardless and I didn't want to be a wife just a mom. I am glad we never married.

    My now husband REALLY wanted to get married, like a wedding and the whole thing, he had already kids too, from an ex-wife (both their bio kids and his stepkids, court gave him custody of all of them and he adopted the ones he could). I caved and told him ask in 2 years, he did.

    What it did was like some old timey upper class marriage shit, combined families & created a dynasty. I liked it because "stepmom/stepdad" can do things like school pickup that "mom's boyfriend" can't. And my kids & his kids got this amazing network of siblings, they all like each other. And I got a great MIL & FIL, and together my husband & I make kind of a lot of money when before we were each supporting a family alone, and struggling.

    So basically because we already had families, getting married made us one big family. Which now makes me think of it like that, when before all I saw was the man-owns-woman shit and wanted no part of that.

  • What questions do interviewers need to stop asking during a job interview?

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  • Because working with people you like makes work so much more bearable? We have an AP lady who is a hotshot, does such a good job but so mean and hotheaded and thinks she is "honest" but is really just mean. Hates her husband , hates people, only likes her dog. Her manager is on her last straw because she criticizes everyone else all the time and dislikes half the people she works with, and she (the manager) has had to referee arguments she has with the rest of the staff.

    You can train someone to do a job, it's much harder to train someone out of being an asshole.

  • What's a song where you like a remix or cover better than the original?

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  • Best Coast doing the song Rhiannon

    It's close, because I LOVE the original but Porter Robinson's cover of the Fontaines DC song Favorite is amazing and everyone in my family likes it so much. The interview where he talks about the song also great.

    Probably more if I think about it, but those 2 came to mind as really good covers that do something different from the original songs.

    ETA - just about anything by Bob Dylan or the Grateful Dead sounds better to me when another band does them, Dylan in particular writes amazing songs but I don't like his delivery of them and the Dead, that sound annoys me so much I cannot.

  • WHY the only men who approach me with amorous intentions are unhealthy, cigarette, alcohol, junk food men??

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  • Treat yourself with the same consideration you would give someone else. You are a person too. Would you tell your loyal and loving friend they were inadequate?

    Be nice to yourself.

  • What habit do you possess that seems very normal to you, but would seem odd to anyone else?

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  • I am the same with sweet things, I like them but want to taste it, not eat it, sort of.

    I have a set of wee demitasse spoons at home so I can put my one spoonful of ice cream in a little bowl and eat it, lol. Just little tastes of very sweet things, they do not feel good to eat in quantity.

  • What habit do you possess that seems very normal to you, but would seem odd to anyone else?

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  • Same here. Work mouse is a mirror of home mouse. I started putting it on the left because I use the 10-key a lot. When there was a phone I put it on the left too, so that my right hand (the 10-key hand) would not get confused by the upside down layout of the phone keypad.

    At work, mouse and phone (gone now, thank every God) on left, to leave my dominant hand free for the keyboard, basically.

  • What is something that most people normally do that you find weird?

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  • Huh. That's an odd one. We are all here because someone had kids, you grew up with people who had kids, it's a funny thing to not understand. I always wanted kids but can wrap my mind around people not wanting them, feel everyone should live their lives the way they want & most of my kids don't themselves want kids (though they all like kids, they just each want one of their siblings to give them nieces).

    Raising kids is by far the best work I ever did, and babies are cute, little children are delightful, teenagers are cool, and now as adults they are awesome.

  • What is something that most people normally do that you find weird?

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  • ? I do. Only at home, it's sometimes before not after. Because hands are considerably more dirty than pussy. So if battling any hint of UTI, washing them before is recommended.

  • WHY the only men who approach me with amorous intentions are unhealthy, cigarette, alcohol, junk food men??

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  • This is the most likely explanation by far. You are looking for such a small subset of the available population, you are unlikely to hit on what you want by chance.

    You would need to either increase your tolerance in some direction (need fit & active, don't mind some drinking, some junk food as long as they don't care you don't join in that).

    One other thought, I am a lady but if I met a guy who was TOO clean living, I'd worry how he was in bed, does he consider sex a vice too? Some of those guys are kinda crazy.

    Maybe ask your friends if they know anyone you might vibe with or try online dating apps.

  • What is something that most people normally do that you find weird?

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  • "Other than making some sort of vegan statement" is such an oddball exception.

    I don't mind the casual conversation. But do mind proselytizing.

  • What is something that most people normally do that you find weird?

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  • For decoration. I like them, and also like scars - bodies move through time and I like when our lives mark them, I guess.

  • Those that sleep in bed with a significant other, how do you deal with snoring?

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  • Oof my husband snores. I let him fall asleep first because it's worst when he first falls asleep, when I get in bed I say please stop snoring and he can for long enough I get to sleep, and I guess it's just not as loud after that because I almost never wake up from it. If I snore it wakes me up though, happens rarely but sometimes if I am on my back will snort while asleep and it jerks me awake - I don't understand how my husband can sleep though his own snoring, at all .