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Texting on a computer reminds me of the free 10 SMS messages one could use with ICQ in the early 2000's.
Good times.
Yeah, it works both ways at the end of the day.
I know fine well when I need to take some holiday days - I work with a team of fantastic guys and girls in a very bureaucratic environment, so any deviation from the norm in certain projects come with a raft of paperwork (an unnecessary volume in some cases), before the issue can really be put to bed.
Everyone makes fuckups. I've made fuckups and caused by line manager paperwork when I was at the coalface, and I'll continue to make fuckups and learn from them in the future. I know my spuds will drop a bollock every now and then, and that's cool.
There are times when someone has made a royal arse of something and it's stacked another load of paperwork on top of me, and I get a bit angry about it. It's not rational, it's not fair to rag on the poor dude or dudette or dudethey who made an error, and I'll let my partner know that I'm not after solutions - I'm just needing a bit of extra time to calm down and refocus. Solutions to those problems mean overhauling a heavy and entrenched system of work, and it's not something that can be done at home - I could have married Kofi Annan, but unless he's familiar with the system of work, there's fuck all he could actually do.
At that point, it's time to book a week or two off, and think about anything - everything - but work.
e: clarity
It works spectacularly well with people you're close to or on very good terms with.
If my other half is kicking off about something, a quick "hey listen, are you wanting help to fix this or are you wanting to vent like fuck to feel a bit better?"
It's rarely the former, though I'd be more than happy to help if it was. At least then I can let her rage out and decompress without throwing in unwanted suggestions.
Probably comes across as a bit blunt to people you don't know well though.
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Every person's view is different, and there's no sure-fire way to make a friendship happen. Anyone who tells you there is, is either lying or has a lot of power or money that attracts "yes men". Other genders are available.
So, as with anyone else's experience, my advice is purely anecdotal - and it's basically "don't be a dick".
That's an incredibly reductive soundbite, but in short, I try and be decent to other people and encourage people to be cool with me. No ego, no perceived power dynamic, just chill - for the duration of whatever we're doing. It could be playing online, a videoconference for work, an academic meeting, and project team - whatever. As another poster said, the vast majority of time I don't go into interactions looking to come out with a new best friend or a new romantic partner - partly because the former makes you come across as insincere, and mainly because my partner would have something to say about the latter.
Of a hundred interactions or meetings or encounters maybe one will start firing on all cylinders from the get-go, and you'll find that you share loads in common, they've got a similar sense of humour, or even you may be mutually attracted to them from their video feeds - whatever. For the most part, I'm sad to see people I've met leave at the end of a project, an academic grouping, or a game sesh - but I didn't click with them enough to actively want to see them again.
That one-in-a-hundred may develop into a "hey, I play this other game/with another group" or "man you know your shit, we should stay in touch" or "jeez I could learn a lot from you, fancy swapping details?" - and it may well be that you've read it all wrong and they think you're a bellend. It is what it is, it's their call and it takes two to tango.
If the planets align though, you'll get a good friend, a romantic partner, a decent teammate or a brilliant colleague that lasts for years.
In short, if you're pretty sound and go in with the best of intentions, giving everyone* the time of day, then you'll at the very least make the best of whatever situation you're thrown in (voluntary or otherwise), and at best you'll find someone equally awesome and it'll run from there.
Either way, good luck. I hope you find someone to play with/enjoy their company/chat shit to soon.
*does not include obvious cockwombles of course. The definition of which is left as an exercise for the reader.
🎵 hi, you're the problem it's you 🎶
I suppose a group chat by it's very definition is a clique, else it would be a public chat.
The key - as in face to face interactions - is to only bother yourself with groups you have a personal interest in, or a professional benefit from being in.
It's a fine balance. Too many groups and it comes across as insincere, too few and you end up out of the loop on a lot of friendly news or professional opportunities.
I think this - and the dozens of other reasons - is it.
I'm in a handful of reasonably active group chats, and if one of my absolute banger messages doesn't get a response, welll... maybe it just wasn't that good. Not awful in as much that people leave the group en maase, but just not nearly as funny or interesting to other folk as it was to me.
It may be that it was the group chat equivalent of clicking a Lemmy post, thinking "huh, cool", and moving on.
It may be that the post was so balanced and well presented from most angles, that there isn't really anything to add.
It could be that my post went against the grain of the flow of conversation or the tastes of the majority of the group, and people chose to ignore it rather than tell me to fuck off.
It could be that people's lives have run away with them, nobody gave any serious mind to the post when they read it, and it would just be a bit weird replying twelve or 24 hours after the post.
Any which way - if the group is still active, and you've not been called out publically or privately, then people likely don't give a toss and have moved on - no harm no foul.
Beautiful cat - she looks like a lot of fun!
The next few days will suuuuck, but you've got a lifetime of memories with her to look back on and enjoy 😊 take care friend!
The stewards have directed that Cat #69 failed to lift his paw when shown the blue flag, and as such impeded car 63.
Six penalty points and a €420 fine payable to Action For Road Safety added to the initial sanction.
Ten second penalty for impeding car 63.
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Dying of piles sounds awful. Like, it would have been nice to marathon Ye Olde Stranger Things or Squide Game without having your arse falling to pieces on your
deathbeddeathsofa. gaming
Pokémon Club! I went with my kids ages ago, and I'm the only one that habitually goes now.
Half the group are below 5-20, the other half are 20 and above - and it's an absolute riot. I've made some decent friends, taken Pokémon Go raid bosses that I'd never have been able to take in a rural area normally, and the adult-only raid walks are just a good excuse to chat bollocks. I'm not really in to the TCG side of things, but even the people who I don't have much in common with are awesome for type and counter knowledge.
I'm not even big into the Pokémon series, it's just an excuse to talk shite for an hour and rinse some XP.
You misunderstand.
Keep the payment, take the goods.
😂 I should have known...!
Even if I want to get rid of something for nothing, I'll put it up for a fiver.
The number of fucking idiots that come out of the woodwork rises exponentially when you list it for free, proper unreasonable or a ludicrous false sense of entitlement.
I'll wait until someone wants it, offers to pay, and tell them to keep it and put it in a charity box on their way home or some shit. Saves a lot of hassle.
oh lawd he comin'
Cute, though!
Taking the 1 (or whatever number) ranked word would make for a good alternative to AskOuija or something.
I wondered why "die" was so common, until I realised we have a lot of Deutsch compadres too!
...and that is awesome!!
Can't speak for everyone obviously so this is purely anecdotal, but the Venn diagram of those who are cool with it and do it; and those who aren't cool with it so don't do it, are largely two separate circles.
I personally think that if you think it's funny and you're prepared to take it as well as dish it out, there's no harm in it. If you're daft enough to find it entertaining then go wild, it's your life and your own choices.
From my schoolyard days though, slapping someone in the balls or giving someone a dead leg or towel-whipping someone or the dreaded "nipple-cripple" (excuse the ableist term) on someone who wasn't a willing participant of the game was a dick move (no pun intended) and massively frowned upon.