Oof. I would "I was tired" all day long if it lets me do the right thing while keeping Russian agents from throwing me out of a third story window.
We each need to resist in the ways we can, and give each-other a ton of benefit of the doubt. (Each-other being defined as everyone trying to do peace and collaboration and not ordering rockets to be fired at hospitals).
You're right. But if someone I care about is choosing between suicide and explode their relationships, I hope they choose explode their relationships. I'll be there when they figure out whatever is next. (I know because I have been for someone who did. I'm not delighted with how they handled things, but I'm glad I still have them.)
I let them know and will hunt down the hiring manager once my friend applies.
As a hiring manager who has experienced this kind of introduction or "name drop", I want to add my perspective:
It's great. Keep it up.
I got introduced to one of my best team leads that way. (To be very clear, I didn't know the colleague making the introduction. We worked together but had never quite crossed paths. I still buy them a thank-you lunch occasionally as a thank you for their bravery, and selfishly in case they or another peer of theirs is job searching.)
Disclaimer: As a manager, it's my job to apply fair hiring practices, and I'm committed to that. I don't have many great answers, but I know today's computerized HR filters aren't fair to anyone, anyway. We need to do better, and personal references are probably the best tool for candidates, right now.
For the parents, their world turned upside down, and Andrew Wakefield gave them someone/thing to (incorrectly) blame.
A thousand deaths aren't enough for Andrew Wakefield. (Paraphrase quote from Frank Herbert's Dune.)
Disclaimer: l'll never illegally harm Andrew Wakefield. But if some authorized entity convicted him to execution and raffled off the right to throw the switch, I would buy one ticket for each person I've lost.
I lost people I love to all of this anti-vax bullshit.
As part of my grief journey, I tried to understand.
And now I'm not inclined to mock those who mistrust the CDC.
Mocking them won't bring my loved ones back, and it won't save anyone else's loved ones.
Their experience is different than mine, but it's real to them.
We either talk about ways to rebuild that trust, or we accept that we're going to keep losing loved ones. I choose not to accept it. It's not easy, and it requires trying to understand their world and their hurts. But I've lost enough people, it's worth it to me.
I agree with you that rampant capitalism is the true primary source of distrust, but we're not going to fix the full distrust without addressing the history as well.
all participants were given long term medical care thanks to funding from the government.
There's a lot more than my cherry picked example in our history.
We have a history of treating our least privileged society members as lab rats.
Now we're acting shocked that folks aren't lining up for a poke in the arm.
Trust must be built, and we clearly don't have it anymore.
Getting rid of our billionaires is step one, but it won't magically change hearts and minds and create the missing trust.
My point is that they government itself doesn't have a spotless history, and so cannot simply say trust me bro. It's not just privatized healthcare that lost the missing trust.
Getting rid of our billionaires and un-privatizing healthcare is step one. After that, we still need an accountability overhaul, and a ton of patience to rebuild the lost trust.
You just described a normal non-profit, but doomed. Lol.
Organizational committment to remaining non-profit seems to be critical to the recipe.