Totally agree, but don't let that stop you, keep at it! Maybe those just weren't your people.
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She's only become very vocal about her beliefs since the covid vaccine propaganda has been going around. I always thought she didn't vaccinate us because she just didn't care. It was rare for her to care about any of our (me and my siblings) physical ailments, or illnesses. And we don't really speak, even when we do talk, there's never any conversations where we talk about things, so I wouldn't have ever spoken to her about getting my babies vaccinated. She's a full blown narcissist, so conversations with my mother look like, her running some spiel about how amazing she is, how much better she is at literally everything, how much of a burden and annoyance everyone in her life is, because they are lazy or some such and make so much work for her, (even though she never lifts a finger to do anything, it's all done by these people for her). And I'm the black sheep, she's hated me the most for as long as I can remember, she diminishes and ridicules everything I say, or outright ignores me, randomly pretends I don't exist and she can't hear anything i say. All that to try to explain, we've never really talked, like ever.
Partially she hated me the most because from teen years on i always called her out on her shit. Sometimes just by asking simple questions, sometimes by outright stating the ways , what she was saying didn't make sense. Lately I've been calling her out on the covid bullshit, but she makes such idiotic statements, I'm starting to feel like what's the point. She doesn't listen to or consider what I'm saying. I'm feeling like it's a waste of my energy. None of us believe her bullshit. The last time she started on her vaccine rants, it was that "covid vaccine caused all those deaths" spiel. I explained to her, painstakingly, that more people will die without the vaccine. She said that doesn't matter, any deaths are too many. There's nothing rational going on up there.
I feel like She just likes to rage about something, it doesn't matter what, but it has to be something right wing type. To distract from the massive ego vs reality imbalance, rife inside narcissistic types. Their beliefs don't match reality, about themselves, so they're constantly having to either try and create that fantasy reality by tearing others down, in an attempt to assert the hierarchy, therefore being able to see themselves as better than those they tear shreds off, in some twisted logic, or distracting themselves with some injustice (usually a bourgeois injustice, as they see themselves as the top 1%. Regardless if that matches reality).
I had a friend who was an antivaxer, too. She wasn't a crazy narcissist, like my mother. She just fell for the propaganda. She was respectful about it, we just didn't talk about it at all. But if we did accidentally come upon the subject in conversation, she still wouldn't say anything. She didn't ever try to convince me, none of that. We drifted apart, busy lives.
You forgot to mention the rca cables. So many rca cables.
I had measles as a kid, I wasn't vaccinated, i remember it as if it were yesterday, it was so traumatic, i genuinely thought I was going to die, I genuinely felt my mortality, at like 7 or 8yo. the pain was more than I could cope with. My mother was (and still is) an antivaxer. As deranged (and narc) as they come. I got my kids vaccinated. It's ripping my heart out, knowing what these kids are, entirely unnecessarily, being put through.
I like, nothing matters, because everything is made up anyway.
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Their levels of empathy, their relationship with their own ego, and, similarly, their levels of selfishness / egotistic/ egocentric. That's the core that drives, they'll make decisions on who to betray from that core, with no care for others, they become quite dangerous to be around. That said something people are good at pretending they have empathy and aren't egocentric, but if you wait and watch, pretend always has cracks to see through. And i don't mean small moments of overwhelm. I mean, polar opposite behaviours that seem outside their morals, when not in an extreme emotion. You will usually see little things around the edges, and your instinct is to excuse it away, because it doesn't fit the narrative, don't do that bit. Little things around the edges might look like casually stealing, possibly just small things, sometimes even from friends, jealousy or a hatred for someone for no apparent reason other than they're good at something the person in question is, too. Wanting a lot of attention, without giving anyone else room in the spotlight, or giving less and less room for others in the spotlight, until it's all about them. Passing blame, it's always someone elses fault, or excuses for everything they do that they feel are a reason to be able to do the poor behaviour, rather than taking responsibility, learning and growing. Unable to metabolise failure, at all. If you look up fixed and growth mindset, (Carol Dweck) narcissistic types, always have a fixed mindset. Where they're Unable to utilise mistakes or failures to learn and grow, and believe that you are inherently born good at things or not, rather than practice at anything making you able to be an expert at something.
I cannot remember the reference right now, but it's said that anyone can become "genius" level at something, if they just put 7 years of practice into it. "Bad" people, practice being like everyone else, they are very good at learning what you want to see, and mirroring that, for a time, it's not something anyone can hold up for very long, but that said, I've seen it held up for a year, odd, at times.
If you wait, don't get enmeshed with someone too quickly, they usually try to move fast to enmesh you, and remember that a lot of what you see in anyone around you, is what your brain imagines is there, you put a "persona" on people, all people. What's in everyone is a complex mix of a different set of morals, and emotional maturity, privilege and perspective of the world that's shaped by their unique upbringing, surroundings and environment. Even two siblings can have very different upbringing, surroundings and environment. And everyone has bad and good, in them. What you need to assess is the harm they could or do cause you and what you need to do to keep safe, keeping in mind that psychological, emotional and verbal abuse, are as harmful as physical abuse. And then decide what level of involvement is safe for you.
Yeah, same! The monsters weren't one dimensional, or typical bad guys, they had depth and character, backstories and character growth, they weren't blunt instruments who were that typical or usual representation of being just bad. Some monsters were redeemable, some weren't. In a magical dimension where anything can and does exist. It touches on inclusivity. I hugely enjoyed the concepts and life dilemmas they broached. And the way they gave deep concepts a light hearted view, but still explored it fully. Gave the character growth so much depth. You see so much character growth throughout the seasons. I could go on. Brilliant show, even though it is mostly kid aimed, kinda.
You're gonna think I'm weird, but star vs the forces of evil. It's a trip. It's so creative and different. Watched it with my youngest and my grandson.
Likely just double sided tape. That would gather dust where exposed, (not stuck to wires, bit) though. As I found out from doing the same thing with a super long lamp cable, in my bathroom, where we only had a heatlamp, and that sucked in summer. But also the power point was in an awkward place, so I dangled a lamp from the ceiling, but after taking it down, and being too lazy to remove the tape, now it's fly catching tape.
Any tinned beans are ready to eat, just rinse and heat a little (a minute in the microwave, give or take). I'm super time poor, So lately I've been mixing a few varieties of beans, with some just defrosted peas and corn, and some dip and corn chips, if im feeling fancy. Damn it's yummo!
I use about 1/2 cup peas corn, microwave for 30 sec to 1 min, in a little water, drain.
Pour in 1/3c (odd) of whatever beans you like (I go with black beans, chick peas, and lentils)
Microwave 30 seconds.
Add lemon juice to taste. Pour on whatever dressing you want for flavour. (Tzatziki, 2tbsp or vinegarette, or salsa, endless options)
Then you can use it like a chunky salsa / dip, eat with corn chips. Or as is.
Or eat with rice or noodles.
I have at times added cheese or a chicken schnitzel.
I don't think these rattle heads, actually plan to march, I think he thinks he will order a march, and all the people currently marching that he sees, love him so much and support his "deserving" lifestyle so much, they'll all march for him. He's putting in orders for you to march for him, on his behalf, and he absolutely believes it'll happen in troves.
Weren't they going to retire it, but everyone collectively lost their minds, so they kept it?
Weird, I'm in Tasmania and I've been seeing an unusual amount of people with coats and two suitcases, trying to get on the busses. (It's summer here). But also, there are hot springs, here. Look up Hastings caves.
And she got bitten because she took her glove off.
Oooh! What's your go to? Asking for a ....... friend
I can play quite a few. High proficiency at saxophone and clarinet. But i can pick up almost anything and do something with it. I can play a lot of stuff by ear, so lock me in a room for a day with almost any instrument I'd have a decent ability with it and a few songs for you.
That's one of those things I'd do if I won the lotto, buy as many instruments as I could and build a music room, and recording studio, invite local bands and kids to record there for free.
Why would you buy carpet the same colour as your cat! You were asking for that problem. Entirely your own fault.
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I gave birth to my middle baby, my eldest was 13 at the time. It's one of my favourite years. Simpler time. We were still going to video stores to pick out movies and internet wasn't much of a muchness yet.
Yeah exactly! Everything you said. It's definitely curiosity that's key. Just being curious about the people around you. Every single person you pass will see the world through a different window, than you ever can, and the only way to see through their window is to ask them, their view is formed by how they, specifically grew up, and the places they've seen, and knowledge they've absorbed.
Personally, I pretend I don't know as much about something, because other people's interpretation can give you a better perspective on something, you already know. Probably pretend is too strong a word, I more ask questions from their perspective before saying my perspective. Because if you just make bold statements, people are mostly too polite to correct you. And I find, sometimes people help me add to my knowledge, or help me see I've picked something up wrong, if I phrase things in questions rather than statements.