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At the very least, I don’t think OP deserves to be dragged like they were for what is to me a pretty reasonable take. In Lemmy, blocking someone acts like getting blocked on pretty much every platform, which is going to be confusing for many
I can agree that I understand the confusion and I also don't think the OP deserves to get dragged for their initial post, but I think their opinion is fundamentally flawed and the reason they got dragged is mostly because they went in the comments trying to defend their opinion. The problem is that the term "Social Media" has gotten so hackneyed that multiple different things are all called Social Media and the rules of the most common version are expected in the others.
Growing up Social Media referred to Social Networks which are user-centric platforms like Facebook, Twitter, and Myspace (I guess potentially TikTok) where you create an account which is central to your experience on the website. Connections on these platforms are made through creating individual friends lists and following specific users which makes it super easy to block someone in the manner described. Now basically everything is called Social Media, including forums and image boards. On an image board or forum you might have to create an account, but the experience was more defined by going through an index of posts not connected to your account. Places like Digg, Reddit, Tumblr, Pinterest, 4chan, and any random ass forum functioned pretty similarly to how blocking works on Lemmy. In most cases the blocked user can still see any public posts you make; they may not be able to search for your posts within their account or respond to your messages directly, but they typically could still see your posts and respond to other people in a thread (even your own). The only exception to this is if they posted on a forum (or subreddit/instance/board/blog) you moderated or otherwise controlled. In some cases Social Networks and image boards are similar, if you run a blog on Tumblr it functions more like a Social Network but if you only browse other people's public blogs then it functions like an image board
The whole argument is basically "Why don't forums work like social networks?"
Looking at the post you reference the person you talked to is a transgender person who moderates both LGBTQ+ and Transfem in Lemmy.blahaj.zone, they provide more than enough evidence of their minority status, but that wasn't really needed. The question was what group was being harassed and thus this interaction would imply that the LGBTQ community is being harassed on Lemmy.
What I feel like you missed in your previous discussion is that the other person was talking about privacy in the context of being outed in the real world. The harassment being referred to was in the context of your real life identity being revealed or connected to your online conversation.
Under this context they are looking for a feature similar to how Facebook (at least previously) allowed you to pick who could see your post as you were posting it. That way you could individually disallow specific people or groups from seeing them.
This doesn't imply that the issue is that someone is being harassed on Lemmy and thus we need better blocking options. It's really only an issue for someone who wants to dox themselves and still have private conversations, in which case Lemmy and most online forums can't accomplish that natively across all instances/subreddits/groups. The only solution is to have a private instance with vetting and heavy moderation. If you don't dox yourself you can generally avoid the whole issue here.
Based on this I think you're making a different argument than what the block feature is or ever could be.
I'm sorry, but I feel like you need to support the statement "This comes from discussions I’ve had with minorities about the harassment they face on Lemmy and mastodon" a bit more. Your whole argument for limiting the speech of others is predicated on this statement.
I'm not saying that minorities couldn't face harassment on Lemmy, but Lemmy is by far the most liberal and minority supportive online forum I have ever experienced. Part of the reason Lemmy is so niche is because it doesn't have the mainstream attention other platforms have and is heavily moderated.
If you are engaging in an instance where harassment is occurring the moderators generally ban the person quickly. If the moderators of that instance aren't doing their job people generally leave and the instance dies from lack of content (there just aren't that many people on Lemmy). If someone follows you from a different instance to another the current instance moderators will likely ban them even if the one you met them on doesn't. Finally, if they are direct messaging you you can block them, they can continue to message you but you won't see their messages and neither will anyone else.
What minority group have you talked with that are receiving harassment and what extra protections were needed that aren't already here?
All I have to say is get fucked loser
Please forgive me, but I'm going to answer your post in the opposite order it was given.
I completely agree about the comedy and the satire of the original comic, I'm not opposed to it being over the top to deliver it's comedic message. I'll also say that the message is comedic in a dark way. The issue inherent to it is when you have people giving seemingly literal agreement to satirical statements, which is what a lot of these comments have devolved into. Your own post was 659 words, 44 lines, and 14 paragraphs obviously this discussion isn't just about visual shorthand of a comic, it has some amount of real world investment.
As to your first question, I can't give a concrete answer. As with many psychological things I can't tell you what is a reasonable amount of suspicion, but I can say what is an overreaction. Similarly, I can't tell you what a reasonable amount of collecting is, but I can spot hoarding. I can't tell you what a reasonable attention to detail is, but I can spot an obsessive compulsive behavior. I'm not a doctor, and won't pretend to be one, so I can't tell you in definite terms what a reasonable suspicion is, but I can certainly identify an overreaction.
If someone sees an overly dramatic comic about women being fearful of men and their reaction is to defend the over dramatic behavior then that's an overreaction. When men call out this behavior as overly dramatic and someone defends it, and in fact doubles down on it, then it's clearly not just satire or a dark joke.
If we're using the example of the hotel room I would venture to say that a reasonable level of suspicion would be to lock the door, turn the deadbolt, put the swing arm on, and don't open the door for strangers. If you start getting into hiding, configuring contraptions, barring the door with chairs, and checking the mirrors to see if they are see through, that's an overreaction in my book.
First off, uh no I would not blame the victim for being raped and murdered and the fact that that is what you lead with is pretty telling. Next I think it's really telling that you are saying the over reaction is "basic precaution."
If a woman does a normal amount of precaution, such as locking the door and not opening it for strangers, that's normal and perfectly reasonable. If the woman literally barricades herself in that's insane. In either case, if she is attacked or raped it's not her fault and but that doesn't mean overreaction isn't overreaction.
I think the problem with your argument is the measure of paranoia. It's 100% reasonable to be suspicious and cautious around men, strange or familiar, if you're a woman. The issue I think most men have to this isn't reasonable suspicion or reasonable caution, but rather the over the top reaction women online seem to have.
An example of this might be a youtube video about women checking into a hotel alone vs a man checking into a hotel alone. The man checks in and goes right to bed, the lock on the door automatically engages when the door closes. The example with the woman has her block the one way peephole, double check the deadbolt, brace a chair against the door handle, string a tight rope from the door handle to a firm anchor in the bathroom, unplug the phone, close the blinds, check that the mirror isn't see through, and sweep the room for listening devices. You see this and think it must be satire, and it might be, but then you go into the comments and there's a ton of women saying how true this is and how you gotta be careful of men when traveling alone. Every so often you'll see a comment from a man about how this is insane and all the women respond how he's privileged and doesn't understand why women have to do all this.
No man is going to begrudge a reasonable reaction to strangers and safety, but relating to a comic about seeing a spam notification about singles in your area and locking your door is ridiculous. It's this over the top reaction that men become offended by, not reasonable caution.
Yeah, where I am from it's primarily used by businesses these days. Most people don't answer phone calls from numbers they don't know so if it's important business then they leave you a voicemail. The thing is that if you don't then check your voicemails you miss important business. It has a lot of other odd impacts as well, I was in a car accident not to long ago and the guy that hit me broke his phone and tried to use mine to call his emergency contacts. As you might have guessed no one answered because they didn't recognize the number and he wasn't able to call anyone for help.
It's a double edged sword:
1.) Not all phone lines have text enabled (especially service lines).
2.) One reason you might not answer a call is because you don't recognize it. So if the line in question doesn't have text options then you might miss important calls if you don't check your voicemail.
3.) If you don't take unknown calls and you don't check voicemails then you probably won't answer random text messages either.
At the end of the day more people need to be grown ups and at least have a decent voicemail message and check their voicemails as they come in. It's not an all or nothing discussion, it's a do the minimum discussion. Screen your calls, check your voicemails, call people back who seem legit. It's not rocket science, it's adulthood.
A lot of people are calling this a bailout for Elon, but in reality it would be a seizure. Elon doesn't want to let go of Starlink and the US likely wouldn't pay him what it's worth to take it over.
What people seem to be missing is the precedent this would set. It's all well and good when we empower the office of the president to seize a private company we don't like, but after we give them that power what's to stop them from seizing other businesses?
XYZ company refuses to get rid of their DEI policy because the shareholders voted to keep it? Well now the orange man can seize it.
Let's not forget that previously it took 2/3rd majority to confirm presidential appointments, but the Senate under Obama decided to change that rule to 50% to get past Republican objections. The result of this is all these shit appointments Trump has passed with 51% of the Senate, none of them would have gotten by if the Democrats hadn't made a precedent for changing the rules.
New phone, who dis?
I'm honestly curious how long Trump is gonna make it. Realistically he's probably running on a bunch of drugs at this point. No shade here, I assume Biden and maybe even Obama were the same. How do you work that much and not sleep? The answer is drugs!
Even if they are "relaxing" the president has a lot of stress, the job physically ages you. Trump being on a golf course is still probably stressing out even if he doesn't give a shit about the US; whether it's about how his personal investments will work out or about his personal vendettas the job is stressful.
Trump was also severely stressed while out of office due to the pressures of the lawsuits he was under. With 12 years of stress the man may be 79 currently, but he's probably way older physically. I don't see him making it through this term and the only way he's made it this far is drugs and a good pharmacist.