I’m a bit surprised that anyone would bother to note a downvote, let alone dig deep enough to investigate who downvoted and then specifically call them (me) out in the comments. It feels over the top and borderline malicious.
As to why I downvoted in this case, two reasons:
discussion of someone’s pet name for a family member seems very irrelevant in this case, not particularly “contributing to the conversation”. I get why the question was asked and answered but it seems so far from anything important, especially now that it’s been explained.
it bothers me that someone would write as if the reader should be expected to somehow know who their husband is, let alone by reference to their pet name.
Lastly, I don’t know why someone would ever be so invested in up- or down-votes at all. It’s not like the fediverse has the Reddit concept of “Karma” or whatever one wants to call fake internet points. It’s disappointing to have a negative total on a post sure but it’s completely ephemeral and irrelevant to one’s life.
Also rural US here. For me: Play board games, find other folks to play with. Facebook group for better or worse, but over the years other methods help such as FLGS game night, or bar game night.
Also effective for another friend: “retro” / couch-friendly console video game nights. Invite over friends to join.
And another: book club.
These are not all necessarily things I am interested enough in to do on my own, but am happy to join others in. Persistence is key. Just because no one shows up a few times, that’s okay. Be flexible within the context of the activity. It’s fine to hate the book you’re reading, or just hang out to talk/listen even if you don’t want to fully participate. And allow others to do the same, but be welcoming and inviting!
Isn’t nfs pretty much completely insecure unless you turn on nfs4 with Kerberos? The fact that that is such a pain in the ass is what keeps me from it. It is fine for read-only though.
It’s almost like the constitution has a provision for this in the 25th amendment…