I have no idea how rare it is to find women that fit your description... But my gut feeling says that it is not as uncommon as you have been led to believe. A very common stereotype for women is to be nurturing and warm... There has got to be a reason why that stereotype exists in the first place.
But for what it's worth, my wife is exactly like this, except for the "baby talk" and diminutive names... Those are the two items from your list that I also don't really enjoy, so that might just be a case of us adapting to each other's preferences and needs. I actually also don't like my hair being stroked... But that's because I have psoriasis in my scalp, and stroking my hair causes it to tickle and itch.
When I stumbled upon your post we were actually already lying in bed and I had only woken up some 10-20 minutes before, and my wife had just rolled over and wrapped herself around me as the big spoon.
My parents were also somewhat emotionally distant. They preferred to bottle up any hard emotions instead of dealing with them. They were never abusive though.
In the early parts of the relationship with my wife, I didn't appreciate the affection as much, I still liked it, but couldn't fully surrender to the feeling. However my wife started therapy to deal with her own childhood trauma and PTSD, and asked me to join to help her... This was of course a smart ploy, because she knew I also needed the therapy. Participating in the therapy made me realise how much I actually needed the therapy, and it taught me to open up to my emotions, and both receiving and giving affection. Which of course taught me to appreciate and enjoy much more of my wife's affection.
Every human is different, some are extremely affectionate, and some are not. Some people need a lot of affection and some need very little.
Being honest with your self and any potential partner is absolutely a super power. You do not want to trap a person that doesn't want to be affectionate in a relationship where they have to be. You want to find someone who either is affectionate already, or is open to being affectionate.
And this is completely normal to expect in a good relationship, but as you say, many men have been taught that they have to hide away their emotions... But to me it seems like this stereotype is rapidly changing to allowing men to be softer, and open up about their emotions.
Come to think of it... Even the semi-conductor layer is an abstraction on top electricity, and electricity in turn is an abstraction on top of electron movements...
This is basically a study in layers of abstraction.
At the very fundamental layer you just have a semi-conductor... Special sand that can either allow electricity to pass, or block electricity...
Then when you arrange multiple of these semi conductors in special ways, you get logic gates.
When you arrange the logic gates in special ways you can make more complex operations that can essentially do math with the electric signals.
Then you introduce even more of there bits to be able to perform many different instructions, and some form of memory that can store instructions and execute then in sequence.
With the right set of instructions you now have what is know as a "Turing machine". Essentially a super basic computer that understands machine code.
You extend the list of instructions and, and you arrive at Assembly.
Then you decide to make a simpler more human readable language and write the assembly to translate this language to Assembly, this is basically C with a compiler.
Then you start building languages with higher and higher levels of abstraction to make them easier for humans to express their intentions with.
If you want to start at the very bottom layer and try to build some of those abstraction layers yourself to understand what's going on. I can warmly recommend trying out https://www.nandgame.com/
While PETG certainly has a lot more moisture problems than PLA, PLA can still give you a lot of grief if it isn't dry enough. Stringing, oozing, uneven extrusion, and many other weird problems. I would definitely try to dry the filament...
But this could also look a bit like over/under-extrusion... Have you tried calibrating your e-steps?
The containers in my setup are running in a Kubernetes cluster. My Kubernetes cluster consists of 3 physical servers (one old desktop computer and 2 Intel NUCs).
On that cluster I run many different things, Jellyfin, Plex, *arr-stack, downloader, Immich, zigbee2mqtt, home-assistant, audiobookshelf, calibre-web, Forgejo, ArgoCD, Homebox, Paperless, Factorio servers, Velero, and a bunch of other stuff.
Because I run so many different things on the same 3 physical machines, using containers, then there's no way to split this into VLANs.
I could make a "kubernetes" VLAN, but everything else on my network would need to be connected with it anyway. All my computers, phones and TVs need to access Kubernetes (Jellyfin), and Kubernetes need to access everything else such as EV charger, heat pump, and the power monitoring in my power meter. Therefore I need to control my networking at a different level.
Yes, that does indeed sound like you have all the stuff necessary to make this work.
In my home network this wouldn't work, as I'm running all my stuff in containers on multi-purpose servers, and therefore I can't really split things per VLAN. Most other people in the homelab/self host community also use their servers for multiple purposes at the same time, so VLANs alone often doesn't cut it.
Yeah, it's lacking an avoidance system, as Slate will also tell you, so just make sure there's nothing between you and your destination when you activate it.
VLANs work on a layer where devices can either reach each other or they cannot.
Let's say you have your main desktop computer in the "main" VLAN, and your Jellyfin server in the "jellyfin" VLAN, and a third server for your home-assistant in the "home-assistant" VLAN, and finally some IOT devices in the "iot" VLAN.
You connect the VLANs as follows:
"main" can reach the Internet, but you also want to access your jellyfin and home-assistant, so you connect it to those two VLANs ("jellyfin" and "home-assistant")
"Jellyfin" can reach the Internet (because you want updates), but Jellyfin doesn't need to reach anything else on your local network... However since you already connected "main", then "jellyfin" can reach it.
"home-assistant" needs to reach the Internet, but also the "iot" VLAN where some of the devices it controls resides. You also already connected "main" because you wanted to access home-assistant from your computer.
"iot" is blocked from reaching the internet, and it's only connected to the "home-assistant" VLAN because home-assistant needs to reach it.
Remember that all connected VLANs much be bidirectional.
Now someone compromises your Jellyfin. They now control and has access to everything on the Jellyfin server, but they also have network reachability to your main computer, because your "main" and "home-assistant" VLANs are connected. They can now try to exploit your main computer.
If they are successful in exploiting your main computer, then they can use your main computer to jump to the home-assistant server because again, these two VLANs are connected. And you likely have the credentials for accessing home-assistant available on your main computer somewhere.
Now they are on your home-assistant server, and they can now start trying to exploit your IOT devices.
If VLANs are connected, they don't care which direction the traffic flows.
If you want to control traffic flow directions you need a firewall. A firewall can sit between VLANs and block traffic coming from one to other, but not the other to the one.
If Jellyfin gets compromised, you risk everything else on the same server getting compromised, as well as everything that server can reach.
VLANs can certainly reduce what is at risk, but wouldn't the machine running the Jellyfin client be reachable from the Jellyfin server? And if they manage to move laterally to the client machine, what could they then reach from there?
No, there's never any shortcuts that doesn't require you to fly to the other planets...
There is autopilot, so you don't have to fly completely manually. But you will still have to take off and land yourself. And wait while autopilot flies to the destination.
For me, this bit became complete muscle memory, and a bit of time to reflect and contemplate what I had learned. Almost a bit meditative.
But yeah... If it only ever felt annoying and cumbersome to you, then I can certainly see why the game wouldn't be enjoyable.
Sure... If someone managed to stream some of my media... They probably earned it... But then they exploit a vulnerability to perform arbitrary code execution, and leverage that to hack everything else on my network...
Fair enough, I must concede that it's probably not for everyone...
It's worth mentioning that most of the places that are hard to reach do have hidden shortcuts, that makes them much easier to get to, once you learn the shortcut.
Also you can enable a setting that pauses the game while you are reading Nomai text, or talking to people.
There's an interesting video on YouTube by TeeHallums who investigated why some people bounce off of Outer Wilds, in the video he also interviews Alex Beachum (the creative director for Outer Wilds), and discovers an interesting pattern in all the people he has experienced bouncing off the game: https://youtu.be/msABa06aiT0
Only 27 containers? That rookie numbers... You gotta pump those up!
I'm currently sitting at 131 containers across 3 Kubernetes nodes, all bare-metal though, no virtualization.