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Acamon

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  • With any addiction or habit you want to change the most important part is not expecting it to just be done with, however hard you try. If you want to stop looking at porn all the time, then becoming someone who struggles with porn, and still breaks every couple of weeks is a big step. If you can keep that up for a longer time you might start being someone who breaks every three weeks and so on. What's tempting is to say "I can't do it, so why even try" and just give up.

    Also, it's up to you why you want to stop a habit like that. Being conscious of your reasons and motivations can make it a postive step (whcih is easier to motivate) rather than just something you're preventing yourself from doing. When I was giving up smoking, it was helpful to think about postivies (breathing easier, having more energy, not stinking of smoke) because when I felt stressed and wanted a smoke telling myself "no you shouldn't" wasn't motivating.

    It can also be helpful to identify the steps that lead up to a difficult decision point. If you're not wanting to look at porn, but you find yourself thinking "but I'll just look up some innocent pictures of blahblahblah, that's not porn, that's okay" and then suddenly you're in a situation that requires much more willpower to not fall down the rabbithole.

    Good luck!

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  • It really depends on how you define the traits of autism. Traits like "difficulties in social communication" are a big part of ASD profiles, but a condition like ADHD can also lead to problems in social communication for entirely different underlying reasons. Basically any complex human capability can go wrong for a variety of reasons, and completely different conditions can lead to quite similar problems, just because those problem areas require that everything is running together smoothly.

    That said, I did an autism screening as part of my adhd diagnosis, and came out with 0/40. I joked, "oh good, so I guess at least I'm normal in that area" and they replied "uh, normally people get around 10-15/40, 0 is pretty rare". So I guess I'm pathologically un-autistic.

  • What's up with not being able to use your skills when someone is watching?

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  • That's really interesting. I've got adhd, and I hadn't read about the role the DMN plays in adhd until I followed up on your comment. It's given me a lot think about. Thanks!

  • What small (under 6.2") smartphone should I get?

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  • I just got the pixel 8a, because I wanted a small phone and it was the only one I could find that was available at a reasonable price. Happy with it so far! Not installed Graphene but the possibility definitely influenced my desire for a pixel. If Google ruins android, nice to know there's an alternative. Other big plus is wireless charging, it's my first handset to feature it and my last three phones have each needed replaced in under two years due to problems with the usb C port.

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    what is my "type"? i'm into guys who look like this

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  • I'm not disagreeing that it's a working clas slur, I know that. But you asked what the well agreed upon name is for that subculture is... and sadly it's a slur. I've seen people describe themselves or their style using that word, I've been people put in dating profiles (both as a self description, and as something they're looking for).

    This fashion article uses it repeatedly (and acknowledges it's contraversial origins as a word), but also uses "casuals", "English working class youth" and "football hooligan" as subculture groups that wear that style of urban street wear.

    If you don't like it, don't use it. But it is the common agreed upon term that you wanted to know. British society doest have quite the same issue with race as the USA, but It has a huge problem with classisim, and it is made much worse because people don't even see it as a problem. You said that people wouldn't Just describe a guy in dredds using a racial slur, but they would have 80 years ago. Britain is still at that stage with its attitudes to working class culture. And appropriately, "Chavs" by Owen Jones is a good introduction to people interested in the issue.

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    what is my "type"? i'm into guys who look like this

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  • Most people would call that style "chav", and I've heard people say they're into chavvy-looking guys/girls, without thinking they were being offensive. If you don't like that word, I'm sure some clothing store magazine would use terms like "urban street fashion".

  • Are you more scared of horror when you were younger, or more scared as you got older?

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  • Much more as a middle aged person than when I was a teen / younger adult. Probably still less scared than when I was a little kid.

    I watched a lot of darker / violent movies when I was 15-25, and really enjoyed them. But over time I started finding horrible stuff happening really hard to watch. It's not so much the fear, it's just that I can now empathise and imagine suffering in a way that I just couldn't when I was young.

    I can't enjoy a stupid slasher movie when all I can think of is how the families of the dead teens would have to deal with the grief. Even action movies, unless they're pretty campy, just remind me of what real people genuinely and tragically have to experience.

    It's kinda shitty. Sometimes I think i need to desensitise myself, but it also means that older movies where violence and darkness is often implied are still really impactful.

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    Whats the most weirdly aggressive mod removal reason you've received in your ModLog?

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  • Only once had my post removed, from !opisafuckingidiot@lemmy.world with the reason "Take a break". Not especially offensive as a message, but also not a real justification since it was the first time I posted in that community.

    But the post and screenshot was of a post by the mod of !opisafuckingidiot@lemmy.world saying something idiotic and been widely called on it. But when someone posted it to that community the mod deleted the post. I don't normally get involved in dumb Internet drama (which is why this is the only time I've ever had an interaction with a mod) but the hypocracy of running a community for criticising Internet dumbassery while being completely unwilling to face criticism for your own mistakes was just beyond the pale.

  • What is lemmy about?

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  • You can subscribe, or view All and then you'll see everything as its posted. But there will be a complete mix of stuff from different languages and interests, so you need to start subscribing to communities you like, or blocking communities that don't interest you (for me that's all of the anime / furry stuff).

    It's nowhere near as big as reddit, so it doesn't have the same number of posts or range of interests. But I think the community is better, discussion more personal and popular posts have dozens of replies not hundreds, so it's less faceless.

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    What video game have you always wanted to play but havent yet?

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  • Totally. What's a movie you've always wanted to watch? Look up the plot summary on Wikipedia! You're done!

  • How to build a plane

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  • I think he's just trying to prove your point about the number of autists on lemmy...

  • What is your personal threshold for being grossed out by owning an object that was once part of a living being, and why?

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  • I've discussed with family members how it would be awesome to have jewelery made from each others bones. My sister said she'd like to have my dad's skeleton, prepped like for an anatomy class and he was up for it, but it seemed very complicated (and possibly just not allowed) and unsurprisingly expensive.

    I don't think we're particularly morbid or gothy, just not grossed out by stuff like that. And I think having a smooth bone ring is a nicer way to remember someone you cared about than an ugly urn full of ashes.

  • What do you do when you’re functionally reliant on others’ approval of you and you don’t know what you’re doing wrong to not get it?

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  • Speak with a friend, trusted person or professional to find out what the issue is. If people are getting a negative impression of you you should probably be able to figure out why. And if not, it would be worth speaking to someone to get an outside perspective.

  • What’s a small thing you do every day that makes life noticeably better?

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  • Make a cocktail before dinner. Not saying it's the right thing for everyone, but it brings joy, relaxation and a nice moment of quality couple time with my partner.

  • Have you ever had fruitful discussions cut short because OP deleted the post? If so, is this a fundamental problem or just an annoyance?

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  • But that would still better, even if the content of the post is taken away, there discussion and comments are immediately lost and replies d interactions can continue.

  • What is your most lukewarm take?

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  • This makes so little sense. Why would I care about signalling my 'virtue' to a bunch of anonymous people who have no idea who I am? I can say something nice or harsh because I believe it was affect the people who read it, even though I'll never meet them. That is rational even if it doesn't benefit me, if I care about the experiences of other people. But acting a certain way to gain positive regard for an anonymous identity is dumb af.

    And the main reason I or anyone else acts compassionately online is probably just that it's the first and easiest reaction. I don't troll or harass people, even if I would suffer no consequences from it, simply because I have no interest in doing so. I say something nice because that's what I want to say, it's not an effort or a cost.

  • What is your most lukewarm take?

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  • Different strokes for different folks.

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    [Series] Who does a song based on rose-colored glasses that you think best captured the spirit of that in music form?

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  • La Vie En Rose is a classic for a reason. I'd probably go for Grace Jones' version.

  • What was the last image you saved from the internet?

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  • It is! Loved it as a kid, and gave me a lifelong fondness for command line terminals.

  • What was the last image you saved from the internet?

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